A shout out to all you people-pleasers in the world....
Who out there can relate to the pit in the stomach after you've told someone "no"? Who out there can relate to heart palpitations when you feel you might have let someone down? Who out there can relate to being willing to put yourself out, or bend over backwards so as to ensure that you don't put anyone else out? Yes I know....it's a sickness....but I KNOW I'm not the only one who struggles with this! Ya' know how I know?! Because all I have to do is look around and I see so many women who are overcommitted and frazzled!
Is it just me or are there WAY too many expectations on women these days?! I feel like our culture expects us to be daughters, mothers, sisters, career women, volunteers, coordinators, cleaners, cookers, encouragers, lovers, doctors, leaders, listeners, ect, ect, ect (all while looking faaaabulous of course!)! More importantly, I feel all of those burdens on myself! I realize I cannot do all of those things successfully...I mean, I really do realize that,...but that doesn't mean that I don't feel as if I have to try. And I do...I try very hard! Unfortunately I was blessed with the "people pleaser" gene which means that saying no, or dissapointing someone (which I realize is inevitable in this life), or not being my personal best is very very difficult for me. Not only do I fear letting someone down, but my bigger fear is letting myself down - I have such high expectations of who I should be as a child of God, as a wife of Chad, as a mother to my children and as a daughter and friend and sister, ect., and I am beginning to have so much compassion for other women...moms in particular who I know are feeling so much of the same pressure that I feel.
As women, I know many if not most of us enjoy giving of ourselves and performing acts of service...I think that is how we were created. I also think that most women tend to be people-pleasers. I just wish that we (mainly myself) could learn to say "no" with confidence and lack of guilt - knowing that our first commitment is to God, second is to our families and third is to our community. The day I learn to act on this lesson will be a very good day! :)